Thursday, February 15, 2007

fried

Oh, man, my brain is fried. I've been grading like crazy all afternoon (this is after teaching a 75 minute lecture class - WHICH ARE TOOLS OF THE DEVIL, I TELLS YOU - and a two-hour lab. The two-hour lab is our fourth lab of the semester and I had a student show up for the first time for lab.

I was too shy to ask him why. I always assume there's some good reason, like he was deployed or in jury duty or somesuch. So I went and found the coordinator of the class after the lab was over, and I asked her.

"Um...he JUST showed up to lab?" she said. "Oh, he's one of THOSE."

Meaning - people who show up to class when the fancy strikes them.)

But anyway. I'm mongo tired now and I still have 2+ pages on an exam I gave yesterday to grade. It's "grown ups game night" at church tonight but I AM NOT GOING. I do not feel like it. Maybe it's ratty of me to say this, but I really don't care if only six people show up tonight and it's not able to go because of too few people. I've been to this thing every month - even some months when there were only FOUR of us so I wound up playing Scrabble with this 85-year-old woman who, I swear, was very very close to saying "I will CUT you!" when you took "her place" on the board.

And I can't deal with that tonight. Even if I get a designed-to-induce-guilt, "We were just wondering if maybe you...forgot...." phone call.

I was out at church two nights already this week. I think God will understand. I really really need some quiet time.

And this is a little early for Emily's Friday tradition, but I'm gonna note it here anyway:

If someone is doing something for you on a volunteer basis, that means, on top of all the stuff they already get paid for (and the stuff that they don't but that is kinda sorta expected on top of the paid stuff), you do NOT have the right to leave them long rambling phone messages accusing them of not being 'willing' to help you any more, and of thwarting your deepest and most dearly held desires, if it takes them more than two days to get back to you after you called before.

Sometimes people are just crazy busy. Or, for that matter, sometimes people have relatives die. Or they get sick. Or something. (I always wondered why it was the people who needed the most slack cut for them who were the least willing to cut slack for others).

And under no circumstances do you have the right to go all haughty and entitled on them. What part of "doing this out of the goodness of my heart" do you not understand?

Oh, and another thing: If you are calling from a cell phone, and you leave your phone number, recite it at least twice: at the beginning and the end of the call. I had an angry phone call from someone asking "why didn't you callllll meeeeee baaaaaaack" when in fact, her phone cut out precisely as she was delivering the exchange of her phone number. As we have approximately eight different exchanges here (thanks to cell phones), I can't just guess and play phone-bingo.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Oh man - I am so with you on the whole "leave your phone number twice" thing. It's so annoying to have to listen to the message all over again because I can't write fast enough to get the number ... Leave it twice, people!!

nightfly said...

Leave it twice... and talk slowly! You may say your name and number all day at work, but I am not you and do not know it cold when I hear it rattled off at Warp 21. If you took a little extra time to speak in a measured and clear tone, I wouldn't have to waste fifteen minutes listening to your message over and over.

(And this comes from a guy who locks up when talking with answering machines. It's taken years of practice even to be able to leave semi-coherent messages. If I can work through my issues so that they don't bother other people, then so can they!)

Anonymous said...

It never occurred to me about the cell phone cutting out. I know I have gotten messages that were completely unintelligible from someone talking on their cell who was either driving around (scary) or in a place with a lot of background noise. Frustrating.
Talk slowly is good advice (especially to me--I've been working on it at Toastmasters). The only problem is, what if people have those voice mailboxes that cut you off after 60 seconds? That is the worst part of trying to leave messages for my university advisor or professors. I finally got rid of my digital answering machine and got a phone company voice mailbox because of the brief message problem. First people complained when they got cut off. Then, when I changed my greeting to warn them ("you have 60 seconds") they bitched about that too. Sheesh. I'm not being rude, my answering machine is! :)